Storytime
One Year! (yes, one of those)
This is one of those blog posts that announces an anniversary, but I couldn’t resist, it was so fun to write! I loved looking through all of the pictures from when Adam and I were dating and our wedding, so this post is pretty much written for my own happiness, but if you aren’t tired of anniversary blog posts, you are totally welcome to read it (which is why I posted it). Today, Adam and I have been married for one wonderful, glorious, and incredible year!
Here is the door where I met Adam for the first time. It was kind of like a movie (Oh, how I LOVE real life moments that are just like movie moments). When he walked in and we were introduced, he couldn't seem to take his eyes off me, he just stared at me, which was kind of weird. But how cute is that? Apparently he decided right there and then that he needed to ask me out on a date.
We met right when I had resolved that I was not going to get in any serious relationships for the next several months until I left for my mission. And then Adam showed up and the next thing I knew I had somehow gotten caught up in a serious relationship. But I was still determined to go on that mission. Actually, the first time he asked me out I said “no,” for a lot of reasons, but not because I didn't like him. Luckily he was persistent and the second time he asked I said yes and I'm kind of glad I did!
This was when Adam held my hand for the first time and I realized that I wasn't doing too well on my goal to swear off boys until my mission, but maybe that was okay.
One week after I had my doctors and dentist appointments for my mission papers, Adam asked me to marry him and the mission plans got postponed to when Adam and I are an older couple. We got married in the Portland, Oregon temple, about eight months after we first set eyes on each other.
These children that changed my life
My mom asked me this week if I think much about the 3 1/2 months when I lived in Romania, exactly two years ago this summer. I thought about it for a second and realized that I think about Romania and the orphan children I worked with not only very often, but every single day, they are continuously in my thoughts. Those children and what they taught me affects how I live my everyday life. I dream about those kids and constantly wonder about how they are doing and still cry over them when I think about what a rotten lot they were handed. Going to Romania opened my eyes, making me realize that there are some terribly sad things going on in this world.
Romania has many more orphans than many other countries do. Most of the orphans have parents who are still alive but they either don’t want to or can’t take care their children.
We worked with handicapped orphans, so they were in even a worse lot than the average orphan. Our job was to go and play with them. It may sound silly to have a task to go and play, but in order for those children to start developing somewhat like normal children they needed to have someone that would play with them. Playing teaches children vital skills so that they can function in the real world and the workers at the orphanage very rarely play with them. All of the kids I worked with couldn’t talk. We taught one of the little girls some sign language. She caught on quickly and I think she had fewer temper tantrums by the end of our being there because she could communicate with us and wasn’t so frustrated with trying to tell us what she wanted with her inability to talk. The BYU girl I worked with helped teach one of our other girls to climb the stairs, which was useful since these particular orphans lived on the third floor of an elevator-less apartment complex.
And then, do you know what I did? I left. I left to go back home and left those children in a country that can’t deal with them right now because they have so many other troubles to deal with as they still try and overcome what communism did to them. I cannot express the guilt I feel to this very day when I think about how I abandoned those children. I know that I had a responsibility that I needed to return to in the U.S. but those children don't know that, they just know that no one person seems to care about them enough to stay with them long, not event their own parents.
I can't imagine how much of a struggle it will be for those children to ever trust anyone after all their years of neglect and people leaving them. Do you see how awful this whole situation is? How terrible it is that these children are stuck in a situation where their future is so bleak? I haven't even told the half of the problem those children are in.
Here are pictures of some of those precious children. We worked in a children's hospital as well as the orphanage, so some of these children in the hospital are in a better situation than the orphans, raised much more normally. But their parents could not be with them while they were in the hospital (many of the their parents are in western Europe, working since they cannot earn enough money for their families in Romania. These children don't see their parents very often) so that is why we would spend time with them, since their parents were not there.